I have often wondered why many of my first dates went well (very well in fact) while the second ones plummeted harder than a lead weight?
You could literally feel the difference like it was night and day and from a male’s perspective, I could not understand why this was happening, but there had to be a reason, right?
So I decided to do a little investing and found some interesting things that I simply could not see at the time. Things that I was doing “wrong” that she pickup on and clearly put her off… if only I had more second date ideas for her
“Signs You’re Doing Things Wrong & Not Even Being Aware Of It”
So let me reveal:
Being A Different Person
It became clear to me that on the first date, I was behaving in a manner to try and impress. Like many of us, we consciously try and be our better selves, but it is only a matter of time before we act the way we normally do.
This is not to say your normal behavior is “bad” but is more a case about how noticeably different your behavior has become only after two meets (this naturally brings doubt to a girl)
So the best thing to do on a first date is to the better part of yourself so that on the second date there is not such a notable difference.
Comfort Is Not Always Good
This is an extension of “being a different person” and in some ways contradicts it a little. However, by getting too comfortable you are sending out the signal that you feel you have sealed the deal.
This is a bad idea on many levels. It will portray your arrogance and might even make her feel that you think she is that easy to succumb to your “charm”.
Remember, this is still a period of trying to impress, so arrive looking smart and bring your table manners with you
Pressuring Her For An Other Date
The second date goes well, you can feel you both enjoyed yourselves. In fact, there is no doubting the evening went well and then you go and blow it by appearing a little needy and pressuring her for an other meet.
Has this ever happened to you before? Hurts doesn’t it?
But it is actually your fault. You put in all the hard work and you go and blow it at the end. All that hard work would have left an impression on her. All you had to do was say good night and let the buzz of an amazing evening flowing within her… allow time for the feelings to settle in.
Then it is the following day that you contact her and explain what an amazing time you had and whether she would be willing to do it again.
Still on your first date and looking for amazing second date ideas? Then here is a quick list of things you can do:
- Play Mini Golf – everyone can play it and it is a sport opens up conversation
- Live Shows – show your fun and energetic side
- Take Cooking Classes – don’t be afraid to show your feminine side (or at the very least, she will not think you are chauvinistic)
- Comedy Club – come on, we all love a good laugh
- Take A Walk – Tip: go somewhere you have never walked before, the idea is to experience new things with her.